By emotionally connecting with both futures, you create powerful motivation to protect the life you want and avoid the life you don't.
The Future Projection technique, developed by Dr. David Burns, is a wonderful method where you imagine yourself in the future to help your current self with the negative thinking and emotions you're experiencing. By picturing a wiser, calmer, and more grounded future version of yourself, you can gain comfort, clarity, and emotional relief in the present.
Future Projection for Habits is a variation of this original method. Instead of focusing on emotions, this version helps you change habits and behaviors. You imagine two possible future selves:
Humans are motivated by emotion. It's one thing to know a habit is hurting you. It's another thing to feel the consequences or rewards of your choices. Future Projection helps you vividly experience the future you want and the future you want to avoid so your current self becomes motivated to take action today. Most people only seek help when things feel like they're falling apart. When they're about to lose something important. But with this technique, you can create emotional energy not from fear alone but from deeply feeling what a better life could look like. And then, by imagining losing that future, you become even more committed to protecting it.
Arnold developed a habit of gambling. Sometimes he won and felt a huge high. Other times-like now-he lost a tremendous amount of money and felt ashamed. Even though he wanted to stop, the thought "Just one more time so I can win it all back" kept tempting him.
I want to show you a tool called Future Projection for Habits. It might help with the temptation to gamble. Want to try?
Sure.
There are two role-plays. In both, I'll play "Current Arnold," and you'll play a version of your future self. First the best version, then the worst. Ready?
Let's do it.
Hey Arnold, I'm tempted to go to Las Vegas one more time. Can you show me what your life looks like in the future?
I remember this moment well. After that session, I decided not to go. That one choice changed everything. I built better habits and never gambled again. Life is honestly amazing now. All the time I used to waste in Las Vegas? I now use it to improve my life. You won't believe this. I got married because I finally focused on building real relationships. I became great at my job and earned multiple promotions because I stopped studying poker strategies and started investing in myself. I saved money instead of losing it. My relationships with my parents and friends completely improved because I stopped borrowing and losing their money. I have a loving wife, financial security, a strong career, and people who trust me again. My life is truly good.
Wow. That sounds incredible! But honestly... isn't one more time okay? Just so I can win it all back?
You know how it goes. We always say "one more time," but it never stops. When I chose not to go, it started a chain reaction of good habits that built the life I have now.
How can I have a life like yours?
Make the decision today. If you want a loving wife, a good career, financial security, and real friendships, stop now. Even if you're down money, you can rebuild. This is your chance.
What was it like playing your best future self?
It felt amazing. Like I really lived that life. I want that future so badly. It felt real.
Hey Arnold, I want to see the future again. I'm tempted to go to Las Vegas one more time. What does your life look like now?
Everything is falling apart. I kept chasing wins and kept losing. I lost my job because I wasn't focused. Gambling took over everything. I moved to Las Vegas thinking I needed "more opportunities," but it only made things worse. I lost my parents' and friends' trust. They won't lend me money anymore. They don't even pick up my calls. I owe money everywhere. I'm basically homeless, running away from people I'm in debt to. I wish I had stopped years ago. I wish I had listened.
That sounds terrifying. Losing family, friendships, stability... I don't want that.
It's horrible. And it all started with "just one more time." I kept telling myself the same thing you're telling me now.
But if I go one more time just to win it back, maybe..
Are you serious? Did you not hear a word I said? Stop. Stop right now. You think one more time won't hurt? That's what I thought. Look at my life. Look at me. You do not want this future.
So what should I do?
Stop today. You can still save what you have left.. your job, your friendships, your parents' trust. You're closer to losing them than you think.
What was it like being your worst future self?
Terrible. I hated seeing myself like that. It made me feel hopeless and ashamed. I don't ever want that future.
What do you want your future to be?
The good one. I'm done gambling. I'm stopping for good today.
After doing both roleplays, Arnold quit gambling, rebuilt his relationships, and focused on his career. The Future Projection helped him feel the life he wanted and the life he never wanted. That emotional contrast gave him the motivation to change.
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Future Projection for Habits is a powerful way to boost motivation by helping you emotionally connect with the future you're creating through your choices today. When you vividly imagine both the life you want and the life you want to avoid, it becomes easier to take action, stay committed, and protect the future that matters to you.
Copyright © 2025 by Richard Lam, LMFT. This handout is intended to enhance your understanding of Time Projection - Future Projection, which was created by David D. Burns, M.D. (www.feelinggood.com).